tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360410252358941163.post768091796073862619..comments2023-12-09T00:33:24.572-08:00Comments on Novel Matters: Negative TalkBonnie Grovehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11377519561074174038noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360410252358941163.post-65075690503882895262012-03-24T13:33:42.101-07:002012-03-24T13:33:42.101-07:00Bonnie, I'm blessed with such a husband, too. ...Bonnie, I'm blessed with such a husband, too. And I feel the same way as you about our Novel Matters group. You're all such a tremendous gift of God in my life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360410252358941163.post-45044711388240622882012-03-24T08:58:42.689-07:002012-03-24T08:58:42.689-07:00I have an unbelievably supportive husband. I'm...I have an unbelievably supportive husband. I'm certain he sets records in this area (let's face it, he's dealing with me!), and I turn to him on all occasions. I also have my Novel Matters cohorts that I trust for feedback, editing, and lots of love and support. I have a couple of other writer friends that allow me into their lives, too. <br /><br />I've found that, while hubby's support is critical, I'm glad to have the support of other authors. It takes the pressure off Steve's shoulders, and it's a place to turn when I have issues he can't help with.Bonnie Grovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11377519561074174038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360410252358941163.post-44206082158461687412012-03-23T23:07:44.187-07:002012-03-23T23:07:44.187-07:00I enjoyed all your comments. I love hearing who yo...I enjoyed all your comments. I love hearing who you draw support from. I hope you draw it from this blog as well. We are all in this together. Thank you for being a part of Novel Matters.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360410252358941163.post-89248459499675263422012-03-23T14:19:00.575-07:002012-03-23T14:19:00.575-07:00The one person I can count on to encourage me is m...The one person I can count on to encourage me is my 23 year old daughter. Most others who love and mean to encourage, season their questions with concern and covert reality checks. Family members are vastly relieved when they know I am doing something serious and practical. Writing for pay is relative, but I sometimes write for online news at $1.00 an article and a penny per view just to shore up my reputation. <br /><br />I like Kathleen Popa's comment. I liked hearing about this couple because I am convinced "his" heart was in the right place and he did not realize he was discouraging (or subconsciously jealous or judgmental) and "she" had the courage, self confidence and communication skills to make him aware of her feelings - and they were able to stay in relationship - even better relationship it is to be hoped.Cherry Odelberghttp://einefeistyberg.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360410252358941163.post-58081328832412661762012-03-23T13:36:26.113-07:002012-03-23T13:36:26.113-07:00It must have been hard for J to confront her husba...It must have been hard for J to confront her husband, and to do so lovingly. I'm glad she did. Give her a hug for me, please.Kathleen Popahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03682046279211463305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360410252358941163.post-36880253554794380182012-03-23T13:27:56.268-07:002012-03-23T13:27:56.268-07:00My influence on the blog might reach 1700 people a...My influence on the blog might reach 1700 people a month; I have a finished, unpublished novel, and am working on Book 2, while I work on getting an agent/publisher for it; I submit short stories to ezines, magazines, and anthologies, especially contests, and review books, but when I say I am a writer, they immediatly ask what book I've published. If I don't have one on a shelf in Barnes and Noble it seems I am not a writer. So yes...I resonate. What's praiseworthy however is how many people support me that offset the negativity. The negativity simply show me that these people don't get online enough nor do they know the writing market.Nikole Hahnhttp://www.thehahnhuntinglodge.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360410252358941163.post-51337127158035857672012-03-23T12:15:44.645-07:002012-03-23T12:15:44.645-07:00I'm glad, too, that J got back to work so quic...I'm glad, too, that J got back to work so quickly. Being derailed is horrible!<br /><br />I tend to find that the main source of negativity is in my own head. I'm a hard task-master for myself, and when I spend too long in that place it can get really destructive, and I find that although I keep working, my motivation changes into "I need to prove myself", and that becomes a self-perpetuating destructive cycle. I was there for years. <br /><br />Thankfully now I have an amazingly encouraging cheer-squad of girlfriends (and a husband). It took a lot of courage to share my writing with them in the first place (I still rarely tell new friends that I write) but it's been so worth having their involvement in the journey. <br /><br />It comes back down to we're not meant to do it on our own. And the more we encourage each other the more we find ourselves encouraged. And I rejoice wildly when they are victorious, a) because I love them and b) because I know that the God who has opened impossible doors for them is MY God as well.Megan Sayerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15410068162701570057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360410252358941163.post-47586947184174593912012-03-23T09:34:02.379-07:002012-03-23T09:34:02.379-07:00Debbie also spoke of not affording conferences. W...Debbie also spoke of not affording conferences. What if someone won't allow room for that in the household budget? Any resources I use for writing I will have to repay from the proceeds and without resources I don't have much hope of proceeds.<br />How about children who steal the manuscript? I was so lucky she didn't get around to destroying it. <br />But I keep writing. The buzz from discovering the story beats any negative feedback anytime.Henrietta Frankenseenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360410252358941163.post-55658126202015783532012-03-23T07:58:04.206-07:002012-03-23T07:58:04.206-07:00I'm glad J got it together and was able to get...I'm glad J got it together and was able to get back to work. Negative feelings are normal, but the important thing is to move through that and get back on the positive track. My husband and parents keep me going. Actually, I have a lot of supportive, encouraging people in my life. But my hubby and parents are definitely my biggest fans!Laura S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13934230198562773803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360410252358941163.post-71096540085621235672012-03-23T07:31:19.234-07:002012-03-23T07:31:19.234-07:00One bestselling author (who even dared to read and...One bestselling author (who even dared to read and endorse a self-published novel for me). <br /><br />My husband stands behind me, but he doesn't get the publishing industry (CBA) - and, frankly, neither do I.<br /><br />I can do as much damage to myself as anyone.<br /><br />Jesus keeps me going.Nicolehttp://hopeofglory.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360410252358941163.post-1657277849695270932012-03-23T06:57:32.730-07:002012-03-23T06:57:32.730-07:00I'm glad J is back at work on her book.
My mo...I'm glad J is back at work on her book.<br /><br />My mom has been a steady encouragement. And my agent. And thankfully, I have a small group of close friends that lift me up.<br /><br />I do have those external and internal aspects of negativity I have to fight though. And ultimately it always comes down to (as the song says) the voice of truth.<br />~ WendyWendy Paine Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15136235074351188350noreply@blogger.com