After thirty-plus years, I’m trying to overcome what Katie
identified: being “an author who, for all
her dreams, craves both literary success and personal obscurity.” I’m getting
used to speaking in public places where my writing will be spotlighted. After
all, I had nine non-fiction books published before my first work of fiction
appeared.
All of my NFs were religious books and they became, to my
great surprise, battlegrounds. I’m used to having the sponsoring group get a
phone call from an irate Mormon who’s heard an announcement about the meeting
on the radio and calls to say they’ll be there to take notes and sue us all for
inaccuracies. I’ve had people stomp out, threaten me privately, break down in
tears.
Now, that’s not just when I’m speaking on cults. Once a lady
attended a large meeting when I spoke on Rahab (the subject of my book, The Red Cord of Hope: When History Stopped for One Woman of Faith).
I don’t know if she brought the little pad of yellow Post-It
notes by chance or if she put them in her purse that morning just for me. Every
time I said something she had a different view on, she wrote in tiny crabbed
writing a scriptural notation and her “corrections” which she presented to me with a flourish in front of about a bazillion people. (I still have all those
little yellow badges of shame, inside one of my Bibles, right by the scriptures
she listed. And—in one case, she was absolutely right and I was wrong, letting
my blabbermouth speculate on something off the cuff.)
And I have to say the most hurtful, scathing letter I
received in all these years of publishing was from a fellow Christian woman who
said I’d misused and overstepped the Bible. (Later she admitted that she was
basing her judgment on the King James Version of the Bible, and she could see
why I said what I said when quoting the NIV.)
When my first work of fiction appeared (The Dream Quilt, Waterbrook), it
sold
very well. I was thrilled to hear via the grapevine that entire groups
of
people were working on quilts using the design on the book. People wrote
the
publisher saying that it had helped their children be able to overcome
bad
dreams. One MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group tracked me down and
paid for
professional recording studio time for me to read the book aloud. Then
they
distributed cassettes, child-friendly cassette players, and books to
hospital
children’s wards, for kids who had to spend the night without their
parents.
I say, “tracked me down,” because I published that book
under a pseudonym (my own children’s names, Celeste Ryan.) So there was no
speaking before groups with that one.
Nonetheless, I’ve had a very wide range of experiences
speaking to groups of people who have read my books. But in my experience, mostly
the people who come to a book club meeting (or some sort of public gathering
that focuses on an author and her work) fall into several broad categories.
I’ll list a few, and hope that you will provide some other categories.
First, there are those who are issue-driven. If you write
anything that is even slightly controversial (and for some Christian readers,
even mentioning an issue like abortion or alcohol use is controversial), you
may offend someone who will welcome the chance to tell you about that. Other
issue-driven readers may feel they have something to add to the author’s
knowledge base. At best, however, such a person may just want to sound you out
about why you made the decision to deal with such an issue in a Christian book.
Second, there are people who want to achieve some sort of
vindication. I have found with almost every woman’s group, as a speaker I can
see visual clues to whom the group sees as leader. If I make a startling or
unusual statement, I can see the eyes of the group flit toward the leader.
Often this is the person with the most depth of Bible knowledge, or the one who
is usually the teacher in the group. Because such a position is important to
her and she feels protective of her flock, she will often feel that she should ask
the “probing” questions about the book they’ve all been studying. Or—she may
give you praise for what you wrote, and her words will carry enormous weight.
Thirdly, there is often a “hijacker” in the group. This is
the person who is involved in great personal struggle and for whom the group
(especially if it is a small group, or just has members from one church) serves
as a kind of therapy. Such a person will want to have you (as an authority
figure—you’re up there speaking, right?) hear about their problems and give
public advice – and sympathy. It is very difficult to properly acknowledge such
pain and yet not let the group’s focus be swept into her very small corner.
Fourth, there is almost always at least one aspiring writer
in the group. Many times (as Bonnie has described!) such a person will try to
use a public situation to wrangle out of a published author a commitment to
read, endorse, edit, co-write, or re-write a book.
But mostly such people just want a little nudge or direction
or encouragement. I find that if I say, “I’d love to give you some pointers
after the meeting,” I can help without veering off the course that the person who
invited me to speak had in mind. Then
when meeting with the writer, I save myself a lot of time and misunderstanding
by writing down for him or her the web address to my short blog article, “The Seventeen Steps to Getting a Christian Book Published.”
In general, though, people who come to a book club or other
formal meeting to meet an author just want to interact with a face as they have
interacted with a mind when they read my book. I try to dress nicely and as
Patti said, skip the spinach salad before I speak. But on the other hand,
people want to know that authors aren’t perfect. They can see the middle-aged
woman with a slight lisp and in desperate need of a manicure and be assured
that a regular person can achieve something even if you’re not Superwoman. I
tell them that I began studying biblical Greek in my forties and they can too. That I
wrote my first book in a corner of my garage. That most of my writing takes
place when my hair isn’t combed and my robe doesn’t match my house slippers.
And we, as authors, need this kind of feedback too. We stand
before a great, dark forest into which we have sent our words and we timidly call out, “Is
anybody there?” That forest is enchanted. Magic can still happen with words. As
authors and readers we believe that words don’t belong to the author,
ultimately they belong to the reader. And that’s why people read, why they come
to book club meetings, some of them, because they have begun to own our words.
How about you? Do you have some other categories of people
who attend book club meetings? Are you a representative of such a category?
8 comments:
Latayne, what on insightful post! You've had some intense experiences as an author/speaker, and I know you've handled them all with grace.
I especially love your last paragraph. "We stand before a great, dark forest into which we have sent our words and we timidly call out, "Is anybody there?" That is the million dollar question, isn't it? Is anybody there?
Latayne, thank you for the enlightenment. These are exactly the types of situations I have tried to avoid all my life - I even try to avoid (unsuccessfully) ill matched slippers and robe. Maybe I need to rethink my desire to be a well known, yet oh so very private, author and speaker?
Perhaps I should pursue the stage as a career? At least there you have the orchestra pit between you and the audience.
I think I would add "frustrated writer" to the list. That person who has not had the best experience with the publishing world and is bitter about it. They tend to belittle the author or give unsolicited advice.
Ugh.
I've run into that kind of thing lately. It's tough to deal with. Fortunately, for now, it's all been online.
I have to admit that, for several years, I was the aspiring writer. I didn't mean to be needy. It just happened. I'm learning to get over that. :)
Have I ever said that what I really like about the Novel Matters blog is that everyone is so REAL and therefore, helpful? Thanks Latayne and Susie and Sharon.
Sharon, you are the best. I love your quiet support and not-so-quiet comments! Thank you!
Susie, I think you're handling your transition to full-fledged published writer with grace. I am proud of you.
And Cherry, all of us at Novel Matters have discovered that being a writer is far, far from the image of Barbara Cartland on a fainting couch eating bon bons and dictating her next opus to a secretary. Bon bons usually get glued to my behind because I sit down in frustration on them trying to remember WHAT THE BEJABBERS I meant the last time I left off in mid-sentence writing something.
You make me smile. :) Thanks. Love your insights.
I'd say I'm an aspiring driver with vindication issues.
Or not.
I'd definitly be the book club chick who brought the cheesecake and the good tea...who rolled her eyes at the "nice people" who hijacked the meeting with anti-Amish rants and then plugged their Hutterite novel.
Marian, we are laughing at ourselves. Because we are funniest when we aren't trying to be. :)
Jennifer, I'll have to check your credentials at the door. You sound like a dangerous sort. Cheesecake is always dangerous.
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